Perspective

Do I Really Want to Have a Family?

Graphic by Shay Suban Growing up, I always assumed that someday I would get married and have a family. In fact, when I was little, my friends and I loved to play House, acting like mommies and daddies, pretending we…

My First Time in Drag

The first time I did drag was the Friday before Halloween, 2016. For those who don’t know — doing drag is a fucking nightmare. The time I spent in preparation was probably a greater amount of time than I’ve dedicated…

The Questioning Limbo

graphics by Liana Kindler A close friend semi-outed me in June. She asked me and my best friend what our sexualities were. It was a very open environment; we were at a small grad party of about ten friends, half…

I’m Never Coming Out to My Family

And here’s why that’s OK. Coming out to my friends was hard enough (and the consequent decision I have to make of whether or not I want to come out to every new person I meet… but that’s another story…

No, I’m Not Interested in a Threesome: The Tinder Types

For months, my friends had insisted that I make a Tinder account. And for months, I kept up a strong, noble resistance. I have nothing against Tinder or anybody who uses it, but personally, I could never get used to…

Platonic Love and Adamantium-Based Mountains

On Valentine’s Day, the online newsmagazine Wear Your Voice: Intersectional Feminist Media published the article “Platonic Love: Relationships Are More than Just Sex.” (http://wearyourvoicemag.com/2016/02/12/platonic-love-relationships-just-sex/) hyperlink? The article goes into the importance and complexity of platonic relationships and creates the space…

A Love Letter to My Gay Best Friend

Growing up, I never had many friends. Growing up with little to no friends meant that I never had a space to feel comfortable with myself; the only place that I could really explore my own identity was in the…

The Decision to Come Out

After the first time I came out to a friend, I struggled a lot with deciding whether, when, and how to tell people about my sexuality. Like a lot of people, I was hesitant for many reasons, which mainly boil…

Why I’m Rarely Home for the Holidays, and Why I’m Okay With That

I live in a house full of strangers. I call them my family, and the fact that I feel so obligated to do so makes me question how we decide to define that. When people hear that I don’t get…

Abroad in Taiwan: Getting to Know Myself Via Random Fucking

He was a guy who probably just saw me as a possible fuck and not much else.  But I was strangely okay with that. I woke up, freezing, forgetting that I had left the AC on all night.  The blanket…