Does anyone remember when “gender” and “sex” used to be synonyms? Language constantly evolves, especially during times of social change. As America grows more and more PC nowadays, it can seem overwhelming to keep up with all the new words…
Meaningful Beauty
Beauty is an extremely ambiguous value. That’s right, I said it. Beauty is an ideal that we cannot truly depict. Think about it: how can a person state that something they deem to be beautiful is more aesthetically pleasing than…
The Decision to Come Out
After the first time I came out to a friend, I struggled a lot with deciding whether, when, and how to tell people about my sexuality. Like a lot of people, I was hesitant for many reasons, which mainly boil…
Why I’m Rarely Home for the Holidays, and Why I’m Okay With That
I live in a house full of strangers. I call them my family, and the fact that I feel so obligated to do so makes me question how we decide to define that. When people hear that I don’t get…
Abroad in Taiwan: Getting to Know Myself Via Random Fucking
Photo by Joe/OutWrite He was a guy who probably just saw me as a possible fuck and not much else. But I was strangely okay with that. I woke up, freezing, forgetting that I had left the AC on all…
OKCupid Adventures
Image by OutWrite So I’m on OkCupid. Originally, I saw my roommate on Tinder and thought that it looked fun to collect hot people but my Windows Lumia phone couldn’t support the app. Recently, I found the knockoff version of…
7 Reasons Why Catholicism is the Gayest Religion Ever
The first time I masturbated, I cried. I finally cave in to my carnal desires. But once the waves of ecstasy subside, my heart becomes heavy with Catholic guilt. Years of religious teaching on sexuality instills the idea that sexual…
The Chronicle Life of an Asexual
Illustration by Gabe Hongsdusit/OutWrite I was maybe seven when my mom told me, “Don’t open your legs.” That was pretty much the extent of any talk around sex or relationships that I ever received from her. Sexuality is shameful. I…
My Masculine Ideal
I have a thing for guys with facial hair. It makes them seem older, more masculine. My first kiss was with someone who hadn’t shaved in a while. I remember dancing with him at a party where I was awkward…
Hypocrisy and Hot Chicks
Photo by Gage Skidmore/Flickr First, enjoy. You’re welcome. Now read these comments. Disappointed by FHM cover SantanaLover (8 posts)on October 05, 2011 at 06:35pmI really wish Naya hadn’t done this cover for a scummy lads mag :/ Yeah, I probabaly…